I get an abundance of emails to my inbox and one from Mindvalley caught my attention on ‘conscious parenting.’ I signed up for a ‘masterclass,’ which means you pick a time slot, they send you a link and you watch the seminar. There was a workbook to download as well, and after watching the session I now want to purchase the book ‘The Conscious Parent’ by Dr. Shefali Tsabary.
There is one thing I wanted to touch on, in particular. It is said that every child wants to know: ‘Am I seen?’ ‘Am I worthy?’ and ‘Do I matter?’ With this session it was a great reminder of how important this is and I want to make sure I diligently communicate this to my boys. In frustration, I have certainly cut my boys off from speaking or rudely interrupted them to urge them to move faster when they weren’t getting ready quickly enough for me.
Since, I have been thinking a lot on being ‘worthy.’ In my own life, has this been a block for me?
I was sitting in a boardroom meeting yesterday, and I confess, I struggled to state my thoughts in a way that others stopped to listen. I started talking, and embarrassingly, stopped short as others talked louder or talked over me. By the third time, I talked louder and kept talking. Perhaps a couple of people didn’t hear the beginning of my statement, but I decided not to back down. I am worthy of voicing my thoughts.
I remember being a kid, teen and then young adult and thinking the ultimate goal in life is to find true love (yes, I did love Disney movies). I grew up with parents who are each other’s best friend. I just knew this wouldn’t be a problem for me. You find someone who will be your best friend, you respect and love each other. Done. Easy-peasy. And I met him when I was 19 (18 years ago). I think I was so fortunate in this area since I never doubted that I was worthy of this and knew I deserved it (Kudos to my parents, I am eternally grateful).
This makes me think of the law of attraction quote: “think you deserve it and the universe will serve it.” I KNEW I was worthy and it came easily to me.
This idea of being ‘worthy’ brings new perspective for me in the way of reflection on what I want for my life. It is exciting to think what I can evaluate for myself, recognizing that I am worthy and understanding in what areas this wasn’t coming across in my actions with myself.
And knowing the impact and importance of communicating: ‘you are worthy’ to the ones you love. With words and actions.
You are worthy. In what way have you perhaps now allowed yourself to believe it?